Tuesday, December 26, 2017

LBC: Five Key Differences Between When I Started Lolita and Now

For my final post of 2017, I decided to answer this week's prompt from the Lolita Blog Carnival. I felt that this theme was really fitting since my journey within the fashion has taken me much further than I ever thought possible. This year was a HUGE year for me, and while it was pretty stressful, I learned so much about myself and the people around me. To me, it's extremely important to pause and reflect on one's actions, so if I get a bit emotional or wordy in this particular post, please just stick with me. A lot has happened in five years, so there's a lot to say.

I attended my first official Lolita meet-up with my community on Dec. 16th, 2012. I say "official" because I had actually attended one or two meets prior to that, but I didn't own any actual Lolita during those events.

My first coord ever, Dec. 2012.
At that time, my comm was fairly small (from my point-of-view) and also, pretty tight knit. There were some already established friend groups, but we had several mods and everyone was pretty nice to newbies, for the most part. However, as time passed, most of those mods moved on from the fashion, or moved entirely, and for a little while, our comm became a bit lifeless. With that in mind, the largest difference between my starting point in 2012 and now is definitely, without a doubt, my local community.

1. My Community

My community at our annual New Year's Meet-Up 2017.
One of my BFFs and I were having a discussion about the state of local Lolita communities in America the other day, and she said something that really struck a cord with me. "Most comms aren't like ours, J," were her words, and while I thought nothing of it at the time, it really hit me later when I started talking to, and meeting, the mods of other communities. Most comms *aren't* like mine, and I apologize if that sounds like boasting, but the steady decline of properly functioning, active communities across the States really makes me incredibly thankful for the group of people in my local area.

As I mentioned previously, when I became a Lolita in 2012, my comm was suffering a period of inactivity. After my first meet in December, we didn't have another meet-up until March 2013, and the next one after that wasn't until July 2013. It took us something close to FOUR MONTHS to have another meet in 2013, and that was the meet where I made a conscious decision: if the current members of the comm weren't going to do anything to make it more active, *I* would because I didn't want the community to fall apart. I throughly enjoyed wearing Lolita and the people I met while wearing it, and I didn't want to let it go.

Christmas meet-up, Dec. 2013.
At that fateful meet-up in July 2013, I met a lot of other newbies like myself, and made many new friends, almost all of which are still active members of my local comm. I vowed to make more meets and that's what I did: my friends and I started hosting events for whatever reason we could think of, whenever we could, because we didn't want the comm to die.

And boy, did we stay true to our word. It got to the point where people started booking meet-ups months in advance because the entire vibe of our group had changed. My fellow newbies and I worked together, and with our combined efforts, 2014 was a busy year, full of meets. 2015 was very much the same. 

My birthday meetup, Sept. 2014
It was during this swing of activity that I noticed many of the previous mods were still inactive. I also noticed that there were a few people who weren't treating their fellow comm members well, myself included. Since the mods weren't very active anymore, I was nervous about turning to them, so, like I usually do, I turned to myself. That particular situation, combined with the fear of our comm failing and falling to the wayside is what prompted me to request to be a mod of my local community in June 2015.

I had never been a mod of a fashion community before but I had been a supervisor at my job previously. I also had been in charge of other extracurricular groups in high school, so I did have *some* experience leading others. Our community was getting bigger and stronger, day-by-day and I couldn't; didn't want it to reach the point that it had in 2012, ever again.

The previous mods approved my request to become a mod and I was given "mod powers" on our local Facebook group. As of today, I've been a mod for 2 years and a Lolita for 5, but I feel like becoming a mod was the turning point in my Lolita journey.

I began to see a different side of people while also learning the delicate balance of being the designated representative for a community. People who I had never met before suddenly knew my name, even before I knew theirs. People who didn't care for me before were now eager to make amends. My voice, my opinions, my views; all suddenly came under scrutiny by both members of my comm and those outside of it.

I had an idea of what I was getting into when I asked to become a mod, but I don't think I truly knew, or realized, the gravity of it. To be fair, I don't think many Lolita mods ever do. Being a mod is an extremely thankless job and I sometimes feel like the Lolita community at large forgets that our position is purely voluntary. However, I wouldn't trade it for the world. 

I *love* being a mod.

The positives of my position within my community far outweigh the negatives. I truly love seeing my community flourish and grow. I'm thrilled to see my comm members enjoy themselves and each other. I strive to ensure that my members have a safe and positive experience whenever we all get together as a group, but lately, I've been able to share some of that burden with my fellow members. My comm and my "modship" are the biggest difference between now and when I started as a baby Lolita in 2012 because without either, I would not have learned so much about myself.

If you haven't heard me say it before, everyone, I'll say it now: I love my Metroplex Comm. I cherish you guys so much and I thank you for always standing by me and supporting me, even when I feel like I've let you down. Let's stick together for a very long time, <3

2. My Friends

Me and my BFFs!
Since I spoke a bit about my comm and how I've met so many amazing and wonderful people through the fashion, I wanted to touch on a few of the friendships that I've made through this fashion.  2017 was the Year of Lolita Travel for me. I attended many events specifically for Lolita fashion and for the first time ever, I was invited somewhere as a fashion blogger!

I can't begin to mention every single person I've encountered, but all of you are fantastic, kind, beautiful people. If I say too much more, I'll start bawling and then this post will never get finished, T_T  Instead, I'll just say that our bond may have began through poofy dresses, but it goes so much further than that. Have some pictures!

Dec. 2017.

Winter ILD 2017.

Birthday meet-up, Sept. 2014.

San Japan 2016.

3. Project: A-Kon

A-Kon official logo, I do not own!
Oh A-Kon, where do I begin? For those unaware, Project A-Kon is a 30,000+ attendee anime convention in my home state. Three years ago, myself and a few members of my comm took on the task of creating a new J-Fashion program for the convention. Two years ago, I became the Staffhead of the newly formed department.

Working with the con has been an amazing, eye-opening experience. I've learned my personal limits while working with A-Kon, but I've also learned so much about the convention industry and guest relations through the con. I won't say too much because I don't want to overstep my bounds, but I've also improved my own skills in event planning and social media marketing/advertising based on my work there. Specifically, I honestly don't think I would have been able to co-host the 2017 Statewide Winter ILD meet-up without the knowledge that I gained from the con.

A-Kon 2016 Lolita Tea Party, photo courtesy of the Lolita Collective.

Because of A-Kon, I've also been able to meet prominent figures within the J-fashion community. Since our guests change every year, I've been able to interact and team-up with people I never would have encountered just five years ago.

A-Kon 2017 Lolita Tea Party.
Even now, my team and I are planning out the details for the A-Kon J-Fashion program in 2018. We've come such a long way as a program and I can only hope that we continue to move forward. Also, thanks to Micro A-Kon, I got to be a fashion guest for the first time in my life! ME! A fashion guest! I still can't believe it, honestly.

My coord for Micro A-Kon 2017.

4. Taobao (and the Accessibility of Lolita)

Lost Forest's Stock photo, I don't own!
It wouldn't be a Saxonblues post if I didn't mention Taobao! Over the years, I've become an expert at finding and purchasing beautiful items from the hundreds of Taobao shops floating across the Internet. Without Taobao, I honestly don't think I would have ever started my blog or continued it, so I feel that it should be mentioned. The emergence of the Chinese Lolita scene is something that I'm keeping my eyes on because the most recent explosion has been incredibly helpful to the Lolita community at large.

Also, just the simple fact that Lolita is so much easier to get now than it was five years ago bears mentioning. I know that people who have been in the fashion longer than I have will say it was much tougher 10 or 15 years ago, but I can only speak from my own perspective.

Thanks, Taobao, for fueling my shopping problem, haha.

5. My Style

My first coord of 2017.
My personal Lolita style has morphed into something that I finally feel like I can be proud of. When I first began the fashion, I had no idea what type of Lolita I wanted to be, so my coords were all over the place. Even now, I have a really diverse wardrobe, but only recently has it become something that I truly feel suits me.

I've bought and sold so many dresses, I honestly can't keep count, so the fact that only a few dresses have made it from the beginning of this journey to today is honestly a testament of just how much I love them.

Coord from PAX South 2017.

Lately, I've been dabbling in Gothic Lolita and I have to say, I am really enjoying it. I also find it really interesting that my interpretation of Gothic Lolita is so different from other Lolitas, like my best friend, who wears Gothic exclusively.

Coord from Dec 2017.
One thing I've learned over the last five years is that everything that *can* fit me, is not *for* me. Some things just suit my body shape or height better than others, and it's taken me quite a long time to find -- that's totally okay.

As I experiment and play around with colors and themes more and more, I've realized that I'm extremely meticulous when it comes to coord planning because I want people to look at my coords and say "This reflects you." I think that's also why my coords are so all over the place, too. Some days, I feel like being adorable and Sweet; other days, I want to feel elegant, and I'm sure many Lolitas can relate to that.

I'm curious to see how my style progresses in the future, especially because lately, I've felt like I've reached my peak with my coords. I'm notorious for purchasing one-and-done dresses, and I feel like my other pieces get ignored when I do that, so the phrase of 2018 will definitely be "coord versatility". 

Overall, I'm just so thankful. I know I keep saying that over and over, but I would never have been able to do all the things I've done in the last five years without support from literally hundreds of people. To go from the girl at the top of this post to myself today has been a challenge: mentally, emotionally, and physically. I'm so happy that I've reached this point and all I can do is strive to move forward. I sincerely hope that I'll be able to write another post like this one when I reach my 10-year Lolitaversary, but if I don't, I'll still have all these wonderful memories.

Thanks for sticking with me through this wordy, emotional post. I can't forget to thank you, my awesome readers, too. I teared up twice while writing this, but it was absolutely worth it. I'll be back with a post next week, with a (possibly) controversial topic that was proposed on the Lolita Blog Carnival. I hope you'll come back and read that one too!

Until next time, my wonderful readers~!

Stay beautiful, stay true,
~J

Wednesday, November 29, 2017

Five Favorite Eyeshadow Palettes for Lolita Fashion **Dark Skin Friendly**

Before I became a Lolita, I knew next to nothing about make-up. For me, it was a foreign world of beautiful war-paint that only the talented and the rich could acquire.

Ok, so I'm exaggerating a bit, but basically, I didn't wear make-up often. However, as I got further and further into the fashion, I found myself watching more Youtube tutorials on beauty products. I started looking up different foundations and eyeshadow palettes, and then, I subscribed to Ipsy. 

Since then, my make-up collection exploded in size. I doubt my collection is *that* large, especially when compared to the beauty mavens of Youtube. But, I realized that even though my make-up options have grown significantly, I'm still using the same couple of items over and over.

So these are the eye shadow palettes that I use to create looks for my coords! I won't get into my skin care routine or anything, because if I do, we'll be here all day, XP I'll preface this entire post by saying that I'm absolutely not an expert on anything. I just know that these palettes work well with my skin tone and they work well for my skin!

These are in no particular order, as I love them all and use them often.

Makeup Revolution - Give Them Darkness
Stock photo, I do not own!
This is my *go-to* eyeshadow palette for Gothic looks. This palette is so creamy and the colors are really vivid. They all pair really well together and the mattes are great! Since I've been wearing Gothic Lolita so much lately, this palette has been getting a lot of use.

Gothic look, created with the Give Them Darkness palette
I actually got this palette as a gift from my best friend because she didn't care for it. I'll admit I didn't expect much when she gave it to me, but DANG was I wrong! On top of all that, this palette is actually affordable! I always use it with an eyeshadow primer, so I can't speak on how well it stays without one, but my eyeshadow stayed on for hours after I did my makeup.

You can grab the Give Them Darkness palette directly from Makeup Revolution's website, with this link.

Makeup Revolution - Golden Bar
Stock photo, I do not own!

Speaking of MakeupRev, another huge favorite of mine is the Golden Bar palette. I was on the fence about this palette for such a long time because I was really worried that all of the brown shades would be too close to my skin tone. They aren't, and instead, I got some buttery smooth pigments that compliment my eyes and give me a healthy sort of glow. I also like to use the shimmery golds in this palette as a highlighter!

Look created with BOTH Makeup Rev palettes!
For this look, I used the Golden Bar for most of my eyeshadow and then I added in a pop of the blue shade from Give Them Darkness to match the navy accent throughout my coord. Though I use Give Them Darkness for Lolita specifically, I actually use the Golden Bar palette for every day looks too. The color selection is really great for warmer skin tones. 

My biggest complaint with this palette is the size. It's pretty big and with the ridges on top from the chocolate pieces, I'm scared to travel with it. I use it at home all the time, but I have other, smaller palettes that are just a bit more portable.

The Golden Bar was marketed as an Ulta exclusive (not sure how true that is), so it's not available on MakeUp Rev's actual website. You can grab this palette from Ulta here.

Etude House - Berry Delicious Eye Shadow Palette (#7 Strawberry Mojito)

Stock photo, I do not own!
This is my Sweet palette, if you couldn't tell. The shimmery, light colors are really great for Sweet Lolita and since I'm not a fan of looking like Hello Kitty threw up on me, I opt for a more "youthful" look instead.

The cool thing about this palette is its super tiny size. It fits in the palm of my hand so it's extremely portable. I will say, I don't like how the glitter sticks to my eyeshadow brushes, so I just use my fingers to apply it instead. The dark brown shimmery shade has been incredibly helpful in the past.

Sweet look, created with the Berry Delicious palette
This is another palette that I use specifically for Lolita, so I imagine it'll take me a while to hit pan on it. I bought it from Vuty Design (awesome K-Beauty site, check it out here). but it's an older release (2016) from Etude House, so it's out of stock now, T_T .

You can check to see if Etude House has something comparable to the Berry Delicious palette on their website.

Milani - Everyday Eyes Earthly Elements

Stock photo, I do not own!
How many eyeshadow palettes do I need with gold shimmers in them? A million, apparently, haha. I actually bought this palette forever ago (ok, at least a year), and I *still* haven't hit pan on it, so I'm just gonna keep on, keeping on. It's in a pretty sad state too, because the mechanism on the little plastic cover broke off. I just sit the lid on top of the palette and hope for the best, XP 

I love this little versatile palette! It's affordable, portable and wonderful for both every day and Lolita looks. I especially like that I don't need other palettes in order to use this one. It plays well with others too, but to me, a palette should be able to stand on its own if I need it to.

Eyeshadow look created with Milani Everyday Eyes
I love that I can use this outside of Lolita, because the colors are warm and wake my eyes up nicely. I will say though: since I got both the Golden Bar and NYX Birthday palettes after I bought this one, my poor Milani got moved to my travel bag. Its small size makes it so much easier to travel with, especially compared to the Golden Bar.

The Milani Everyday Eyes palette is available just about anywhere Milani is sold. Target had a lower price than Walgreens or ordering directly from Milani, so save yourself a few coins and grab it here.

NYX - Happy Birthday (Ulta Exclusive)

Stock photo, I do not own!

For those unaware -- both Sephora's and Ulta's reward programs give customers free make-up on their birthday. Sephora gives you the choice of make-up or skincare, and Ulta assigns birthday gifts by sales quarter. As a result, some folks are out here getting sucker punched by Ulta for being born in the wrong quarter.

Since I'm a September baby, I'm definitely not complaining because for some reason, third quarter gets the best birthday gifts. Maybe we share a birth month with Ulta's CEO; I don't know. But the rest of the quarters? My BFF's b-day is in May and she got mascara. Another quarter got a can of hairspray, -_- I'm appalled at the level of disrespect, honestly.

Anywho! All us third quarter babies did a happy dance when the announcement for our birthday freebie including a beautiful image of this gorgeous, versatile, (free) palette. I'll admit that NYX and I have a rocky relationship, but this swung them back into my good graces. I love this palette. I think I love it more because it was free, but that's neither here nor there. 

This palette is just perfect: it's got light colors, dark colors, mattes and shimmers! It's got great base colors and some deep hues, and it's perfect for fall. I tried to find a place that was selling this palette, but since it was an exclusive birthday gift, Ebay may be the only place to snag one.

I swapped this palette out for both my Golden Bar and Milani palettes because it has a few more colors than the Milani palette, but it's smaller than the Golden Bar. The shades are pigmented and blend wonderfully. This is another palette that plays really well with others.

Haha, I bet y'all are sick of seeing this selfie.

I used this palette in tandem with Give Them Darkness for the pictured Gothic look, which I lovveeee. I think this would be a great Classic palette too, especially with the pretty wine color and soft beige. I was surprised at how the burnt orange shade showed up on my skin; it looks like a muted brown color that serves as a good base alone, or with a little bit of shimmer on top for a snazzy, simple look. I use this palette for both Lolita and everyday looks, and because of its size, I'm going to try traveling with it too!

Speaking of traveling, I'm heading to Austin this weekend for International Lolita Day! I'm hosting an event with a few members from the other Texas comms, and I'm super excited! If I can remember to take pictures, I may make a blog post on the event and perhaps, I can discuss some tips I've learned while planning these huge events and meet-ups over the years.

In the meantime, tell me all about your favorite eyeshadow palettes and make-up products that you use for Lolita! Do you have a go-to palette for all your looks or a handful for each style, like I do? Let me know in the comment box below!

Thanks for reading, and I'll see y'all next time!

Stay beautiful, stay true
~J

Monday, November 13, 2017

Taobao Haul #7: Leomistu, Elegant Cat, HengJi Shop, Haruhi Clover, and Fluffy Lolita

Winter International Lolita Day is coming soon and I need some stuff! I placed another Taobao group order with my friends in preparation for all the events I have coming up this holiday season. In addition to hosting the Statewide ILD for the Texas comms, I'm attending a frilly friend's wedding in December, and then in January, we'll be having our comm's annual New Year's meet! Since my calendar is already jam-packed, I felt like it was best to place an order sooner rather than later. As per usual, I bought everything through SpreeNow. It's just been so easy to order through them and their shipping feels a lot more reasonable than other places. Check out my affiliate link here.

Leomistu

Stock Photo, I do not own!
I've ordered from Leomistu before, so I wasn't worried at all about their quality. I'll admit that I'm not much of a headbow person, but I thought this bow would look really good as an accent color to some of my dresses. I'm a little disappointed that the headbow came on a headband, instead of a clip like I thought, but it's still really cute!

It's pulling a little pink, but I promise it's red!
Hopefully, it looks redder in other pictures, because for some reason my camera is turning it hot pink, X_X Anyway, I love Leomistu and this bow is pretty well made. I've reviewed them before so all I can say is that even if the bow isn't a true red, it's made pretty well.

You can check out Leomistu's storefront with this link.

Elegant Cat

Stock photo, I do not own!
I've reviewed Elegant Cat before too! I actually love this shop, though I wish they had more of a selection. They make super cute accessories, especially for Sweet Lolitas. Feel free to check them out here.

My wristcuffs!
I'll let y'all in on a little secret: I'm actually not a fan of wrist cuffs. It has nothing to do with this pair in particular, and everything to do with wrist cuffs in general. I think they look great, but not on me. I bought this pair because lately, I've felt like my coords are missing something. I'm hoping that with these adorable cuffs my opinion will change, but we'll see. I will say that I love the lace detail on these! It's so pretttyyyyy~! I was, however, a little disappointed at the shade of navy used for these cuffs. They're really dark, even in person. We'll see if I can deal with that, lol.

HengJi Shop

Stock photo, I do not own!
In my last Taobao haul review (read that here), I ordered a wig from this very shop, but apparently, I translated the name incorrectly. According to the images from the shop, this particular wig shop is named HengJi Shop, not HumHang Shop. Anyways, I have feelings about their wigs. Bare with me, y'all.

My new wig!
For starters, I LOVE this wig. I'm so pleased with the color and pleasantly surprised by it. In person, the wig is much more of a flax and gray mix, but in pictures, it looks gray. The flax+gray mix is extremely flattering on my skin tone (if I do say so myself), as opposed to the last gray wig I ordered, which was pulling green on me. The wig is soft and lightweight, and oh so comfortable on my head. I especially like the fact that the bangs are on a separate weft, as opposed to part of the main wig.

But that's where the pros end. This wig sheds like nobodies business, y'all. As soon as I took it out of the bag and ran my fingers through it, a handful of loose fibers came along for the ride. I'm not concerned that the wig will shed itself bald, but it's definitely a concern for the future.

Another issue I have with this wig (and possibly this shop) is that the wig isn't styled like the picture. I can tell that it actually is the wig in the image, but because the styling is different, I actually I had to double check my order with Spreenow to make sure this was the wig I ordered. This is the second time I've been bamboozled by this shop because the last wig I ordered from them was also not styled.

It's a minor issue because they're definitely sending me the right wigs, but I specifically bought this one for the spiral curled ends. I could probably style it myself, but I didn't see anything in the listing that said I needed to. It would be nice to either: get wigs in the style that's pictured or pay extra for a styled wig. Perhaps this is a translation issue, but it doesn't change the fact that this is the second wig I've ordered from HengJi Shop that came to me unstyled.

So now I have a dilemma -- I'd be lying if I said I disliked this wig. I absolutely love it; it's beautiful and it's the first gray wig I've found that actually looks gray and doesn't make me look casket ready. But is it worth getting an unstyled wig that sheds a lot? Price wise, the wig was only $11, and with that in mind, I can't complain too much. 

That being said, I'm honestly not sure if I would order from HengJi Shop again. Their wigs are beautiful and they have a good selection, but given my experience with other Taobao wig shops, I'd rather go with the ones I know that will give me good, consistent quality.

I give this wig and HengJi/"Humhang Shop" a 5 out of 8, with the note that I probably won't order from them again. But that doesn't mean you can't! Check out HengJi Shop's large wig selection with this link.

Haruhi Clover

Stock photo, I do not own!
I've ordered from Haruhi Clover before and all their accessories are so cute! I bought two strawberry clips to wear with a Taobao dress that I pre-ordered. Unfortunately, the dress has been delayed so I bought these prematurely, X_X

Anyway, they're super cute! I love that I can clip them on to just about anything!

My strawberries! <3
You can take a look at Haruhi Clover's storefront here.

Fluffy Lolita

Stock photo, I do not own!
Gather round, dear readers, and I'll tell you a Lolita horror story of epic proportions. 

During my comm's most recent Lolita Book Club meetup, I was chatting with a friend while attempting to put my gloves back on, when suddenly-! My finger nail stabbed a hole right through the ring finger of my black lace gloves! THE HORROR! 

Let us pray to the Almighty Mana-sama for my pitiful, poor gloves.

Thus, my biggest priority for this Taobao order was actually to replace my gloves. Since I have absolutely no intention whatsoever of cutting my nails down, I thought long and hard about a solution to what I knew would be a repeat problem. Now, earlier I mentioned that I'm also not a fan of wrist cuffs, so I wanted to avoid getting regular wrist cuffs if I could. As I poured through my repertoire of Taobao accessory shops, these beautiful babies appeared, like a gift from the Taobao gods. 

This was my first time ordering from "Fluffy Lolita hand made" (Google translate strikes again), but I had seen some of their accessories while hunting through other shops. These gloves? Wristcuffs? Half-gloves? Fingerless gloves (haha) keep me from stabbing holes through things since they're completely open at the ends, with the exception of a tiny elastic ring that fits around my middle finger. They cost me a whopping $3. I wish the white pair had actual white bows and not ivory ones, >_< I would have bought both pairs if they had.

My new fingerless gloves
Y'all! These are cute! They're classy! I loveeee them! I want more gloves like this because they're like wristcuff-glove hybrids and I can *also* show off my beautiful nails! It's a win-win for me! Now I just need a shop on Taobao to make these in every color imaginable, pleaseandthankyou. 

I love my new gloves and I'm really pleased with the quality of the item for the price I paid! I'm giving Fluffy Lolita a 7 out of 8. Take a look at all their accessories with this link.

In addition to my full order, I got some free accessories! I love placing large orders because the shops usually toss a few freebies in there. These are pretty good, so don't be surprised if you see them in some of my future coords. I have no idea where they came from, sadly, T_T

Random accessories
I have a few things coming in the mail, so more reviews are on the way! I bought a petticoat and pre-ordered two dresses, so once those make it to my mailbox, I'll be back to share my feedback on each item.

How's your holiday season looking? Do you have lots of plans or none at all? Let me know in the comment box below! Thanks for reading, my lovely readers. Until next time!

Stay beautiful, stay true,

~J

Monday, October 30, 2017

Five Favorite Types of Accessories in my Wardrobe: Lolita Blog Carnival *Late* Post!

Recently, I joined the Lolita Blog Carnival group on FB. I'm doing a terrible job as a member because I still haven't updated my blog like I'm supposed to, #RIP

Still, the prompts are super inspirational and helpful, so I want to use them! So today's blog post will feature an old prompt from the LBC, "Five Favorite Types of Accessories in your Wardrobe". Keep in mind that these items are in order from favorite to most favorite!

5. "Maxipad" Headdress/Headband

Soufflesong Perfume Hydrangea Hair Band stock photo, I do not own!
If someone asked me for the real name of these soft headbands, I'd tell them that I honestly don't know what they're actually called. I read somewhere that the proper name for these headpieces are "rectangle headdresses" but I think most Lolitas refer to them as "maxi-pad headbands".

Stock photo of headdress from The Nightly Thing, I do not own!

When I first joined the fashion, I thought this style of head wear looked really weird, but after I bought a few for myself, I realized that I actually like them a lot! I think they look pretty good with my face shape. Since then, I've found that they compliment coords pretty well, and I have to say that they just look extremely Lolita-esque to me, if that makes sense.

Here's a selfie with the custom headband I ordered from The Nightly Thing. You can see my initial, negative review on this headband here

I had to attack the headband with some scissors but it looks a lot better now!
Since writing that review, I was able to save the headband with a few tweaks and I like it a lot more now, <3

4. Chokers

Choker from Pinktutu stock photo, I do not own!
Chokers aren't exactly a new or Lolita-specific accessory, but I recently re-discovered them and they look so great with Gothic Lolita and mostly any other style. Most of my chokers are black so I've only worn them with Goth. This one in particular has been getting a lot of use lately. 

Selfie featuring my fabulous choker!
I want to buy a lot of chokers in the future! I hope my next one will be something a little more versatile though, since the two I own are black.

3. Berets

Fanplusfriend beret stock photo, I do not own!
I love berets! They're so simple and easy, plus they come in every color imaginable annndddd! They're! *Cheap*!

I can grab a beret for $1 on Ebay in just about any color I need, for a quick and easy headpiece. Of course, the more complex/fancy berets look great too!

Amnesic Forest beret stock photo, I do not own!
I have five or six berets in total, and I definitely want to buy more. There's really no reason not to.

2. Glasses

In My Name stock photo, I do not own!
When I was younger, my Mom took me to an eye appointment and the doctor told us both that I had perfect 20/20 vision. My Mom cheered and I burst into tears, haha.

I've always loved glasses, even at a young age. I'm not sure why I adore them so much, but if I had to guess maybe it's because most of the people I love (my dad, my big sis, my grandparents) have worn them for as long as I can remember. Regardless, I found out a long time ago that I just really love the look of glasses as an accessory. Since I don't actually need them to see, I have a stylistic appreciation for them. Actual glasses-wearers, please don't give me too much side eye, XP.

Flower glasses!
In total, I have 4 pairs of glasses that I use for coords. They're all non-prescription since as I stated earlier, I don't need these to correct my vision. Not all of them are as dramatic as my flower glasses. but I find they are definitely a great tool to add that extra bit of oomph! to my coords.

Here's a pair I snagged on Amazon.

French Cafe + red glasses!
I haven't worn my other two pairs in a while, so I'll definitely have to change that soon! Orrrrrr I can just buy more... I'll probably do both, haha.

1. "Flat Hats"/Fascinator

Stock photo, I do not own!
I am *obsessed* with fascinators, or what I like to call "flat hats"! They've surged in popularity recently and I just can't look away from them! I love these hats so much because they're so classy and give my coords a romantic, vintage vibe. They come in a variety of colors, with awesome flower arrangements.

Leomistu stock photo, I do not own!
I only own two of these wonderful hats, but I want to grab another one in all white because I haven't been wearing my white x sax one at all. My black hat, on the other hand, has been getting lots of use lately.

Recent coord pic with my black hat!
Most of my coords feature one of these five types of accessories, though I have yet to create a coord that pairs them all together! Though, thinking on it, I'd totally look silly with a fascinator, a beret AND a headband on my head, all at the same time, >_<

What are you favorite accessories in your wardrobe? Do you tend to pick the same style or type of accessories to accent your main pieces or are your tastes all over the place? Tell me all about it in the comment box below!

Until next time, lovely readers!

Stay beautiful, stay true,

~J